How each personality type flirts with you

Do they? Don’t they? We’ve all been there - but it might be useful to learn that not everyone expresses their interest in potential romantic-interests in the same way! Let’s take a look at how each of the 16 Personality types acts whilst flirting with someone they fancy…

INFP - Being weird with you

INFP’s can often struggle feeling at ease amongst the majority of the population, and so if they feel comfortable enough to act goofy and playful around you, there’s a good chance that they are interested in you. It simply isn’t often that they meet people on the same wavelength of humour and intellectual depth that they crave in a partner, and so when they do find that potential in someone, they will enjoy being playful, teasing, and laughing with you. They may also ask you lots of questions, in order to really understand who you are at a core level. 

INFJ - Trying to understand your soul

INFJ’s are slow to open up and let their guard down with others, so when an INFJ feels strongly towards someone they may be taken back their selves and find themselves wanting to know everything and anything about the person they’re attracted to. An INFJ flirting typically includes deep dives into very intimate conversations, in order for them to really understand their crush. 

INTP - Teasing you

Whilst you may not find INTP’s writing deep poetry about their crush, they may well be found using their wit and sense of humour to make their crush laugh. INTP’s enjoy lightly teasing and mocking people they care about due to their naturally playful side, and this comes out in full force around someone they fancy. Younger INTP’s may find they take this too far and could end up offending their crush, though as they mature, they tend to get much better at this. 

INTJ - They invest time in you

INTJ’s are naturally very independent people, meaning they don’t jump into relationships unless they are certain that someone can really enhance their life. Due to this you may not find INTJ’s flirting very often - however when they do find someone who feels worth their time, they will make this clear by being quite upfront and honest about their intentions. Anything else would feel like a waste of their time. 

ENFP - Being a little more nervous around you than others

ENFP’s are naturally charismatic and warm people, with a curious nature. This combination means that they often appear flirtatious, even when they don’t mean to be. However, when an ENFP is genuinely romantically interested in someone, they may find themselves second-guessing themselves and being a little more reserved than usual, as they figure out whether their feelings are reciprocated or not. Once they are confident of this, their naturally playful and fun side will come out, as they want their crush to laugh around them and feel good. 

ENFJ - Making you feel like the only person in the world 

ENFJ’s are naturally warm towards people they care about, if an ENFJ is flirting with you then this is usually very explicitly clear. An ENFJ who is romantically interested in you will want to spend a lot of time around you, will usually be very expressive with words and compliments, and will ensure you feel looked-after and cared-for. They may even buy gifts for you or think of unique date ideas to make you feel appreciated.

ENTP - Playful teasing

The ENTP flirts with their crushes by lightly teasing and winding them up. If they are interested in you, you may find that they have been paying close attention to who you are, to figure out exactly how to leave you both exasperated at them and simultaneously laughing with them. ENTP’s are naturally playful and enjoy the pull-and-push of lightly teasing and making fun of their crushes. However, they will jump to your defence around others if this is necessary, as they have a surprisingly loyal and caring side. 

ENTJ - Spending time with you

ENTJ’s are highly driven, motivated and independent individuals. They’ve got plans to execute and goals to smash. Therefore, if an ENTJ is spending time with you and making time in their diary to hang out with you, you can feel rest-assured that they value you and are interested in you. In conversation, the ENTJ will hold lots of intense eye contact to show you that they’re listening to you and value what you have to say. They may even let you see a softer side of them!

ISFP - Playfully shy

ISFP’s are naturally interested in connecting with others. If an ISFP is flirting with you, they will want to spend a lot of time around you and take an interest in what you’re saying. They enjoy being playful and finding unique ways to show their affection through creative date ideas or gifts. However, they can also be very private with their emotions - and may initially feel awkward or around you, resulting in them becoming a little more shy or giggly than they usually would be.

ISFJ - Practical gestures

ISFJ’s typically value the romantic aspect of their life quite a lot, often seeking out a partner they can commit to and build a life with. They take their love life seriously, and so are typically very loyal and dedicated lovers. Before they get to this stage though, they may feel a little nervous around their crush (before they know their feelings are reciprocated) so will try being playful and practically helpful, in order to hint at their true feelings towards someone. Think: gifts and gestures for special occasions, offers of practical help, responding quickly to your texts, and making sure you feel comfortable in their presence. 

ISTP - Physical touch

ISTP’s are typically reserved and very practical people, they are unlikely to be the most emotionally expressive when it comes to flirting, and so can end up struggling to treat their crush any differently from a platonic friend. However, if an ISTP does want to flirt, they are likely to show signs through physical contact and touch - as this comes much more naturally to them than other types. The ISTP may spend a lot of time close to you or find small excuses to touch and be near you. 

ISTJ - Making time in their routine for you

For the organised and diligent ISTJ, disrupting their schedule for someone can be a clear sign that they have caught feelings for someone. The ISTJ typically values their routine and schedule and is very much a “creature of habit” - but may find themselves allowing a little more spontaneity and chaos into their lives for someone they are catching feelings for. If you find that an ISTJ is willing to hang out last minute, drop their plans for you, or visit new places and try new things with you, then you may find that the ISTJ would like to be more than friends!

ESFP - They’ll make it clear

ESFP’s don’t tend to hold back when they’re romantically interested in someone. They’re confident enough in their effortless charisma and charm that they will usually make it very clear. Expect to see them trying to spend time around you, making an effort with their appearance, and being particularly playful and teasing with lots of eye-contact or touch. The ESFP generally feels

ESFJ - Verbal affirmations and compliments

ESFJ’s revel in showering their loved ones with compliments and so if an ESFJ has a crush on you, they won’t hold themselves back from pointing out what they find great about you and telling you. ESFJ’s thrive when the people around them feel good, and an ESFJ will flirt with you by making you feel a million dollars. They will listen carefully to you, nod in all the right spaces, and let you know that they value you. 

ESTP - Showing off

When an ESTP is looking to impress someone, they may find themselves showing off or trying to impress their crush, whether it be through physical feats (how much they can lift in the gym or tricks on a motorbike), or simply with their natural charisma and charm. They want you to find them impressive. However, they also have a very practically helpful side and will want to offer their practical support and assistance in order to appear competent, helpful, and let you know they care for you. 

ESTJ - Traditional courting

ESTJ’s are not afraid of going after what they want. Typically, the ESTJ values traditional romance, and won’t be afraid of courting you with flowers, chocolates, compliments and long walks. Similarly, an ESTJ that cares about you will make it known by praising you publicly, standing up for you (if needed) and making it clear that they’re on your team.

By Izzy Williams